I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye. Psalm 32:8
Think back to when you had an “ah ha!” moment. (That’s how I always described those exciting teachable moments with my students when they grasped a new concept.) That’s exactly what happened to me when I wrote my last entry, Just Take A Step in Faith. As I reread the entry for editing, my eyes were opened to see that the same four lessons I am learning with starting a new ministry also apply beautifully to raising our children! Of course! God is so good.
1) We will not know how to do everything: I think most parents accept this as soon as they see that little positive sign on the pregnancy test for their first child.
2) There will always be challenges to face: All the firsts with my boys come to mind. First time sleeping through the night, first bottle, first words, first steps, first day of school, making first friend, first argument with said friend, first “F”, first move to a new place, first cell phone…I’m going to stop right there because we haven’t reached the first “girlfriend” stage, and I don’t want to rush it! Do you notice, though, how all of these challenges (and more) are enveloped with opportunities to seek Him.
3) We may—no, we will—have a steep learning curve: I think anyone from GenX (my generation) and prior has the steepest learning curve of all in this age of ridiculously, rapidly-changing technology. My prior posting proves this point!
4) But we must remember our purpose and do our best; and when we have done all we can (with His guidance), we must trust that God will do what we cannot: God has called us to raise His children to know that they are fearfully and wonderfully made for His purposes! We do our best by first seeking God’s will for our children, not ours; by falling to our knees and praying that our children come to know the Lord as their own personal Savior; and by giving our children a foundation on which they can stand firmly. This is no small task these days, and there are times when we all fail miserably. I know I do; but we can be encouraged by God’s promise when He says, “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye.”
Over the years, with lots of support from wiser women than me, I have finally come to see that my children truly are a gift from God. He has entrusted our boys into my husband’s and my care; but ultimately, he has entrusted HIS boys into our care. When that concept really took hold of my heart, my whole perspective on raising children dramatically changed. I now know my job! And it is not to take control of everything that happens to them—because guess what? That’s impossible. We must do our part as parents, and then through faith, believe that He has a plan for our children. Because He does!
Thank you, Lord, for your life lessons. Thank you for trusting us with your children. Equip us to persevere in the many challenges we face as parents. Amen.