Ponderings in the Midst of an Attitude Adjustment

Posted By on May 22, 2012 | 2 comments


So it has been one week since my grumbling has been humbled. (Refer to Humbling the Grumbling)

And here is what I am learning about my responsibilities as a SAHM, my attitude, and how they are both so intricately woven together when dealing with my children:

1)  God can show us exactly where our own “hang ups” originate.  When I was teaching, I always expressed how much I learned from my students and their parents.  Some of the parents shed beautiful light on wonderful parenting strategies, and I still refer to some of them today as examples I like to follow.  Others, though, in all honesty, ingrained in me a deep determination to make certain I parent my children the exact opposite way.  I share very openly in a series of articles my experiences and thoughts on helicopter parents in schools; and I now see clearly that this is where a huge part of my own attitude has been shaped.  An internal tug-of-war is always going on in my mind:  If I constantly do everything for my children, (ie. pick up after them or do their laundry even though they’re old enough to help)  they will be too dependent and not know the importance of hard work, perseverance, and accountability.  In many ways, though, my parenting focus has been directed towards just these strict concepts that I want my children to adhere to…

Hmmm…It sounds quite similar to the Pharisees in the Old Testament…

2)  Thankfully, God reminds us that His thoughts and ways are greater than ours.  That’s why He has gently brought me to a place where I am asking, “But where is the love?”  1 Corinthians 13 1-3 says, If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.  If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.  Do you see what is repeated in these scriptures three different times?  I can teach my children all of those things mentioned above–hard work, responsibility, and accountability–but if we have not love…..then we gain nothing…

Wow…The powerful message of Jesus in the New Testament…

3)  Our hearts and minds can be renewed and there can and should be a balance.  Every time one of my children has asked me to help do something for them this week, God has given me a keen awareness of my own internal dialogue.  I will admit, I have caught myself more than once wanting to resort to my old, dogmatic response that sounds a bit like, “You don’t need me to get that for you; you’re perfectly capable of doing that yourself.”  However, because of my beautiful, loving Savior, my eyes have been opened and my heart has been softened to see that in order to teach our children the importance of sharing and helping each other with a joyful heart, then it is imperative to model those exact traits.  And with each seized opportunity to do just that, layers of our own heavy armor can be peeled off, and our own hearts can be filled with a joy and a freedom that only comes from serving such a powerful, loving God.

Oh Lord, I am so thankful for all the mini-lessons you are teaching me.  I think my new motto is going to be:  I still have so much to learn!




  1. Christy,
    You are such a beautiful writer. I am amazed each time I read your blog. Thank you for blessing us and using your talents for Jesus. I love and miss you guys. :)

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    • Oh Lori! Thank you! I love and miss you, too! I hope you are all doing well!
      Love and God bless!
      Christy :)

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