Stinkin’ Thinkin’

Posted By on Apr 23, 2012 | 4 comments


Monday's Mom!

Welcome Heather P., our Monday’s Mom! I have known Heather for almost ten years now, and without a doubt, I can definitely say that she is truly a networking extraordinaire! She loves people, and she loves to share, whether it’s a great household tip, a new recipe, or spreading the word about someone’s new blog or project! That’s why I’m so thankful I am able to share one of HER projects today! First, enjoy her powerful entry below, and then please be sure to check out this Facebook page to see a project that is very near and dear to her heart!
I can do all things through Christ Jesus who gives me the strength. Philippians 4:13

I have always tried to encourage my boys in whatever way I can.  One way is to remind them that they have to maintain control over their thoughts or the enemy is sure to take over with negativity and lies. One of my more common “nuggets of wisdom” is to tell them that  “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, chances are good that you will be proven right in either case.”

However, there’s something about those nuggets of wisdom, at least for me…

God tends to use them to motivate and encourage me as well.  See, I too am subject to what I call stinkin’ thinkin’.  This is where I throw myself a pity party saying, “I can’t do that, I’m not good enough,” or  “I can’t do that, and it’s not fair!”   It’s those times that my Heavenly Father reminds me that if I think I can or I think I can’t, chances are good that I might be right–usually after one of these pep talks and lots of prayer going something like this:

Ok, God, you are right.  If I think I can’t I might be right and  I am willing to think that I can, but I need your help.  Equip me with the wisdom I need, your wisdom and insight, to find the solution to this problem.

Most recently, a perfect example of that happened.  My boys and I had plans to go out of town and travel to my parents’ house a few states away.  While we were there, we were going to celebrate with a baby shower for my youngest sister.  Unfortunately, though, there were a variety of things going on here at home that resulted in us not being able to travel.  As you might suspect, a subsequent pity party ensued.  My frustration was clearly evident, and my children definitely felt my disappointment in addition to feeling their own.  We all became more short-tempered with one another and less tolerant of the little irritations.

However, once I finally gave in to giving the situation to God and let Him have His plan, we were able to find a workable solution.  Internet video chatting!  We did a test run the night before the shower so my boys could see their grandparents, aunts, and uncle.  We worked out the particulars for the next day, and I was able to attend my sister’s baby shower – virtually!  Now, I admit it wasn’t quite like being there, but given the circumstances and my willingness to give the situation to God, I believe He honored my wish and helped us find a workable compromise.

This all served as a powerful lesson for my boys as well as myself.  In addition to their own disappointment, they were able to see that their mom was also upset, and it helped them see that I am human, too.  More importantly, though, we were all able to see how God sometimes says no to the way our plans are originally laid out.  In the end, I was able to model the appropriate way to handle the situation, albeit after a some stinkin’ thinkin’, a hissy fit, and pity party thrown by me; and thankfully, He still granted me my desire to be a part of my sister’s baby shower.

Father, God, we thank you for the fact that we are fearfully and wonderfully made in your image. That when our hearts are willing, you work through us to grant our hopes and desires. May we be continually reminded to put our trust in you!


  1. Great post Heather! And a timely reminder for me. Lately I’m drowning in stinkin’ thinkin’ and it’s not doing anyone any good (least of all me!) You’d think that I wouldn’t have to learn this lesson over and over so many times. Maybe this is my cue to cut my kids some slack when they have to be told for the umpteenth time . . . Thanks for the wisdom on this rainy Monday! Smiles –

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    • Thanks, Amy. God is so faithful and a wonderful, patient teacher. I think He uses examples all around us to lead us in the way that we should go – we just need to be open and aware enough to see it. Throw in a dash of grace and mercy (both given and received!) and cover it in love and we’ll all get through this one way or the other!

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  2. My first visit to Cross Moms! Nice job, Heather. I’m glad to find out that you are a writer, in addition to your other “hats”. I will definitely visit again. ;o)

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    • Thanks, Laurie! I wouldn’t call myself a writer, quite yet…more of a reluctant transcriber of teaching moments so that I might have hopes of remembering the lessons learned because I am less likely as time goes on to reliably depend upon my memory for such things! 😀 But, I will take your kind words and hope you will come back for another visit soon! Christy has started an amazing sight that we hope will nurture and draw women in to share life’s experiences with one another.

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